It can't hide in shadows of my soul if it is out there for everyone to see.
Friday, 17 February 2012
I was initially going to write a post called "Snowball", however in my efforts to procrastinate and put off writing for yet another day, (and therefore not have to deal with a the avalanche of emotions that are about to envelop me) I spent a few hours trying to find a free image of a snowball / avalanche to accompany my post.
I didn't find a suitable image, but I did find this awesome trailer for Ice Age 4 on you-tube.
This amusing video got me back to thinking about the chain of events that changed the course of my life when, at the age of 14, I took the giant step to 'tell'. When life as I knew it changed for ever.
For so long, I had kept so many secrets. Like scrat clinging to the acorn I had painstakingly clung to them - I had carried them around for years. But after I warned my stepfather that if he tried to touch me again I would tell, I had a few months of freedom from the abuse. It was such a relief.
And then, when I was starting to feel safe, he tried to touch me again. It was a subtle start - he tried to fondle (my mostly non existant) breasts as I walked from the lounge room to the kitchen. From experience I knew this was only going to escalate. And I couldn't deal with that. The only way to escape was to tell. So I took my acorn and shoved it in the ground. I told. And that is when the ground split beneath my feet and my world fell apart.
Damn you brain! I didn't want to think about this today! That is why I was procrastinating in the first place. So much for that! Why does my brain find the parallel between a cutsie kids cartoon and one of the most traumatic periods in my life. Why do these videos that hide in the shadows of my soul roll on cue every day?
One day this internal video recorder - that fills my head with loops with of every horrible memory - this automatic playlist that is triggered with even the most innocent stimuli - will eventually stop rolling.
When I talk about my past it hurts. I re-live every thought. Every fear. Every memory. So why do i do it? Why do I force myself to re-live it? Why do I tell the world?
Because if I don't deal with it, it hides in the shadows of my soul, it is a cankerworm, feeding on my bitterness, it fuels hatred and negative beliefs.
Because talking about my past brings it front and centre. It brings it out in the open so I can deal with it and process it.
The only power my past has over me is the power I let it have.
I am battling myself. And its a struggle.
Bit by bit I am reclaiming pieces of me.
My past will lose its power.
I am getting stronger.
I am a survivor.
NB - My fear and procrastination did not win! I have started writing my next post, talking about what happened when I decided to "tell" and I will post this soon.
For new readers who would like to start at the beginning, my story starts here.